Unlocking the parasympathetic nervous system

Deepening Your Thai Massage  – an East-West approach to Thai Bodywork is a BOOK AND VIDEO COURSE IN ONE, written by Tirza Bottema, founder of Thai Dee and teacher of Thai massage for more than three decades.

What makes this book unique is the way the knowledge is offered. It invites you not only to read, but also to look, feel, listen and play.

Insights are approached from multiple angles — through short reflective texts and poems, clear theory, beautiful photographs and complementary videos.
This layered approach allows understanding to grow naturally, helping you embody the work and deepen your massage practice from the inside out.

Nine steps, three pillars

The book unfolds in nine steps, organised into three interconnected pillars:

• Body
• Mind
• Energy

Each pillar consists of three steps that support and reinforce one another, creating a holistic framework for touch, awareness and therapeutic presence. This blog offers a first glimpse into Step 5: Unlocking the parasympathetic nervous system .

What is the parasympathetic nervous system?

Imagine lying on a soft mat, your eyes closed, the world’s stress melting away with each gentle sway of your body. A skilled therapist moves your limbs rhythmically, encouraging your breath to slow, your muscles to soften, and your mind to quiet. This is the essence of how Thai massage connects with your parasympathetic nervous system, the body’s gateway to rest, recovery, and healing.

Our nervous system orchestrates a dynamic range of states — from fight-or-flight to rest-and-digest — allowing us to adapt to life’s changing demands. The parasympathetic nervous system governs the latter, acting as a calm counterbalance to the adrenaline-driven stress responses we often find ourselves stuck in. When activated, this system slows your heart rate, deepens your breathing, and supports the body in repair and renewal.

The parasympathetic system also allows for a broader, “eagle-eye” perspective. In the absence of danger, it creates space to step back and view situations from a wider angle. While the fight-or-flight response is essential for quick, decisive action, the rest-and-digest state invites you to pause, reflect, and process your experiences with greater clarity. This is why such moments often bring insight, creative ideas, and answers to lingering questions.

The challenge? Modern life often keeps us in a constant state of alert, rushing to meet deadlines, navigating traffic, or scrolling endlessly through news feeds. Over time, this chronic stress can drain your energy, disrupt digestion, and cloud your mental clarity.

So how can we intentionally access this calming state? Thai massage offers several doorways to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, guiding body and mind toward deep relaxation and renewal. One of them is its healing rhythm.

The Healing Rhythm of Thai Massage

Beyond presence, one of the ways Thai massage invites deep relaxation is through its fluid, continuous movements. Rocking, swaying, and rhythmic pressure gently help regulate the body’s internal state. Calming the breath, steadying the heart rate, and quieting the mind. These wave-like motions create a felt sense of safety, much like being cradled or floating in water.

The body remembers rhythm. Already in the womb, we are gently rocked by our mother’s movement, a primal swaying that imprints a sense of ease into our nervous system. As infants, we are rocked to sleep; as adults, we still find comfort in a hammock’s sway or the ocean’s pulse. Thai massage echoes this natural rhythm, offering the body a way home.

So move as if you are dancing. In gentle, wave-like movements, one following the other in a continuous flow. Like waves washing over the body. As if the receiver is still in the womb, carried by water.

In this, the transitions are just as important as the techniques themselves. It is through seamless transitions that this flow can arise, and be felt. Give just as much attention to practicing the transitions as to the techniques themselves.

When a practitioner brings clear intention and steady rhythm to their touch, each movement becomes part of a healing flow. Whether it is a stretch, compression, or gentle hold, everything unfolds in continuity, much like Tai Chi. This rhythmic quality gives the nervous system permission to let go, softening tension from within.

In Deepening Your Thai Massage — a book and video course in one — you will discover many more ways to work with intention and the nervous system. Practical, easy to adjust, and deeply effective. Available via major online bookstores worldwide, including Bol.com in the Netherlands and worldwide on platforms like Amazon.